20 Year Celebration!
This is the month and year Doug and I will be married for 20 years. We want to celebrate differently and to share what we've learned on our 20 year journey so from Dec 1st to the 20th we will post each day. We were supposed to renew our vows this year but due to so much transition it wasn't a good time. However, we will renew our vows within a couple of years. We look to God for many, many, many more blessed and joyful years together.
Day 1
Doug and Keisha...sitting in a tree; K I S S I N G. First came love, then came 'Shon then our marriage so we didn't have to wait for the baby carriage.
What we've learned
The first year was ROUGH. I cannot tell a lie. We went through it. It was a time of laying foundational work, seeing what we would put up with, learning what respect was and deciding what was important. Our marriage began with our son already in tow though we did not plan it that way so not only did we have to learn each other on a continual basis but how to be parents as well.
I remember a huge fight we had one day. We didn't speak to each other for hours. He stayed in one room and I stayed in another. I wrote a note (as a writer does) in a tablet that said, "I wish he would deploy somewhere," and he found it. He said, "Oh, is this what you want?" It just led to another argument and deeper hurt. I really didn't want him to go to the field or deploy but I was mad. First lesson, don't say something you really don't mean because once it's out there it can't be taken back. Later on that night, still in separate rooms, a fire broke out in the apartments right across from us. We could see everything vividly...even the dead bodies being carried out in body bags 
. We weren't in Christ at the time but we both knew we messed up big time, especially me. I could promise God spoke to us at the same time asking "What's important?" We learned that our marriage and our love 
was important. We hugged each other and apologized. After that we were good. We learned what was important and it was US.
. We weren't in Christ at the time but we both knew we messed up big time, especially me. I could promise God spoke to us at the same time asking "What's important?" We learned that our marriage and our love was important. We hugged each other and apologized. After that we were good. We learned what was important and it was US.
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